In the book Managing Transitions: Making the Most of Change, 2009, Dr. Bridges identifies three distinct phases of transition. It is during these phases that the work of figuring out the new world and how to be in it happens. For more on Phase 1 and 2 see: Change and Transition Part 1 – Endings and Change and Transition Part 2 – The Neutral Zone.
The New Beginning
As the old and new realities begin to be absorbed and to be differentiated and things start to come into focus. The new beginning start when people can identify with their new surroundings and what may be required of them. The new beginning is a new identity and a new reality. It is when the feeling of being comfortable, knowing what to do, how to do, what’s expected, feeling “normal” happens.
The change may not have been your choice, but the way in which you respond to it IS! Each of these phases offers an opportunity to shift your perspective and choose the way you respond;
- Honour your past; let go of the old practices that can’t translate into the new situation and hold on to what will
- Talk about the changes, your transition, what you want, need and expect
- Get feedback, input and support from others
- Give yourself permission to be uncertain or frustrated knowing it will pass
- Be patient with the process and yourself.
- Develop and apply different strategies to understand what works
- Keep focus on the direction you are heading in, notice your progress and celebrate it
Transition is the internal process and response to the change. It is the place and time to of adjustment to what has changed. Your attitude to the change will impact your experience of the transition – this is where you are at choice. You can decide to be open to new opportunities, potential, energy and movement. Doesn’t make it easy necessarily but it does make it EASIER.